01谈过异地恋的人都明白，异地恋的艰难在于，你爱的人不在你身边。每当漫步校园或街道，目睹情侣手牵手肩并肩，我就会觉得自己与单身如出一辙。没有拥抱，没有亲吻。饭后无伴，逛街无伴，发烧了也无人照料。电话那头，他只能尝试让你喝水吃药多穿衣，还能做什么呢？距离犹如一道无法逾越的鸿沟，让人只好仰望天空。
异地恋适合内心坚强者。
若你是个依赖性强、感情细腻、容易敏感脆弱之人；如果你的内心仍旧是个孩子，总想有人陪伴；如果你是玻璃心，不经得分离；如果你爱哭，不耐烦几个月未见面，这建议不要尝试异地恋，因为日后的痛苦将更加深重。
很多人在开始异地前几乎没考虑清楚，只因一时寂寞，就随便拉个聊天对象以慰藉，这是一种极其不负责任的态度。
恋爱非儿戏，不是过家家，更不是闹剧。在开始一段情缘前，你需对自己负责，对他/她也要负责。不负责任的下场就是伤害别人，也伤害自己。
有人说，异地恋之所以失败，是因为不够爱。我觉得，其实是因为不成熟，无毅力太孩子气。
许多女生在恋中多愁善感，把问题放大来看。一件事情，在别人的眼里可能只是小事，但是在她眼里却像是天塌下来的大事，比如对方一个电话没打，一条短信没回，她就开始胡思乱想，是不是他不爱我了？是不是他不要我了？这就是典型的内心不够强大，对自信缺乏表现。负面情绪产生后，并不会去克服，而是不采取一种消极方式去处理。这长此以往，就是感情被磨蚀。
男生也不例外，他们的心智尚且稚嫩，对另一半没有耐心，对自己的生活规划还模糊，他们整日游手好闲。一句话概括异地失败原因：耐不得孤独、经不得分离，缺乏勇气面对困难和孤独，不坚定，无恒心。
02我有一对朋友西瓜和煎饼，我们都是大学校友。大一下学期他们相遇相知，便迅速成为情侣。大二的时候煎饼要出国西瓜哭得一塌糊涂。
有次她把我从宿舍叫出去，我陪她到操场上吹风。她喝着啤酒问我宿雨，该不该分手？我说向来劝和勿劝分。你知道我的立场啊。
可是，她怕。他说。我怕他出国以后忘记我，我害怕时间会使我们变得疏远，我害怕最后我们会因为争吵而结束这段感情。
那你真的爱他吗？I ask.
Love. She looked at me with a resolute expression.
既然这样，那就要努力吧。我告诉她，从来都不相信那些“放弃的是因为爱”的鬼话。如果你们真地下决断，那就请你们勇敢一点，用行动证明你们的情谊。而现在通讯工具这么发达，与过去书信交流相比，现在已经好了太多了不是吗？
Western Union, the international money order, and the telegram have all been replaced by email, text messages, and video calls. The distance between you two is not as insurmountable as it once was.
Western Union's tears fell like rain on my desk. "If only he could see how much I love him," she said.
03My other couple of friends are Orange and Potato, both from high school. They started dating in their freshman year but kept it a secret from everyone else until they graduated in their senior year.
When they went to different universities for college, Orange would visit Potato whenever she could, and Potato would do the same for Orange.
In their second year of college, things almost came to an end when another girl caught Potato's eye. Someone claimed that he had dinner with her and even spent time together studying in the library – essentially getting very close.
Rumors spread quickly about Potato's infidelity; soon enough these rumors reached Orange's ears one night after class.
She chased after him to X City without saying a word to anyone; two days later she returned home alone with nothing more than a smile on her face.
Everyone thought this was just another quarrel between them that would blow over eventually but instead... well...
Potato deleted all contact information related to that girl from his phone before returning home - not because he wanted to prove his innocence or make amends but because he knew what was at stake: losing Orange who had become more than just someone he loved - she'd become his family.
"Can't you understand?" I asked myself as I watched them struggle through those difficult times. "They're trying so hard."
Orange told us later that when Potatoes' feelings were stirred up by someone else's attention (as people often do), they were vulnerable because they'd never learned how to manage such situations properly yet - not emotionally nor mentally strong enough against external temptations.
And now? Now they've been married for nearly three years.
It seems like life has been good to them since then.
The moral of the story is simple:
If you truly care about your partner’s feelings & trustworthiness
You should be willing & able (emotionally mature) enough
to handle any situation life throws your way together
and still choose each other over others no matter what.
Because if love isn’t worth fighting for—what is?